Many times have we heard divorced mid-singles express deep disappointment over the loss of a marriage saying, "I did everything I was supposed to. I went on a mission. I married a returned missionary in the temple. I kept the law of chastity before I was married and after. I paid my tithing and accepted Church callings. I was told that if I did these things my life would work out. But it hasn't worked out. It's in shambles!"
Actually, whoever told you that your life would be without serious troubles if you did those things? There might be a seminary teacher or two out there saying that. However, I think we know deep down that living the gospel (however imperfectly) does not guarantee us a trouble-free life. Even if we could live it perfectly, we would not be guaranteed that things would always go well for us.
Jesus Christ addressed the subject of tragedy in Luke 13:4-5: "[T]hose eighteen, upon whom the tower in Siloam fell, and slew them, think ye that they were sinners above all men that dwelt in Jerusalem? I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish."
There were many in Jesus' time who believed that a person was struck by tragedy only because of sin. Some apparently believed those who were crushed to death when the Tower of Siloam fell must have done something terrible to deserve it. Jesus taught that those who suffer tragedies are not necessarily more sinful than anyone else. He also hastens to add that we are ALL sinners and need to repent. That includes correcting any mistakes we may have made that hurt our former partners.
Mid-singles and former mid-singles are not unique in their need for Jesus Christ. In some ways, mid-singles in the church are like the prostitutes and thieves and tax collectors Jesus hung around with (see Mark 2:15-17). We are the people who can no longer present an image of perfection or Latter-day Saint idealism. Everyone needs Him, but those with more recognizable imperfections knew it and the self-righteous Pharisees did not.
Do not believe that your discipleship is over because you got divorced, lost your spouse, or have not yet married after many years of hoping. These towers did not fall on you because you committed a sin, though you have certainly committed sins. These towers falling may have woken you up to your need for our Savior. You DO need Him. I need Him. We all do. He is the One who pushes us out of the way of the falling tower and lets it fall upon Him.
LILY Pod Episode 30: The Truth About Negative People
We discuss why it is so easy to be negative and what we can do about it. Enjoy listening with the link above.