As we joyfully received inspired messages during General Conference this past weekend (churchofjesuschrist.org
), we paid particular attention to how these talks apply to mid-singles and later-married couples. Here we share a few highlights.
President Nelson's quote from a previous General Conference was cited in at least three different talks: "The joy we feel has little to do with the circumstances with our lives and everything to do with the focus of our lives." We believe in the power of intentional focus to create joy independent of circumstance. If you are interested in learning how, listen to "Our F-SEEBO Model" on LILY Pod.
Elder Holland spoke of how "old distinctions and limiting labels" fall away and what matters most is our discipleship. There were no Nephites, Lamonites, or any other "ites" during Zion times in 4th Nephi. The only label they chose was "Children of Christ" as heirs to the kingdom of God. We can be careful not to allow labels such as "divorced," "never-married," or "widowed," to define who we are or limit our opportunities for acceptance and growth. Listen to "Thoughtful Labeling
" for more ideas on being intentional with the labels we choose for ourselves and others. Elder Renlund encouraged us to unite around our common identity as children of God and President Oaks encouraged us to be responsible for our own experience with Church activity.
Sister Cordon said, "The Lord has a plan for you," which can be comforting to those who are experiencing life differently than they had hoped thus far. When we help anyone make and keep covenants, we are helping to gather Israel. This includes covenants we seek to make and keep for ourselves. Elder Gilbert said, "I systematically involved the Lord in my development and that made all the difference." We encourage personal development and spiritual revelation for everyone, especially for mid-singles whose lives have been touched by hardship.
Elder Bednar talked of a divorced woman who desperately wanted "justice and accountability" for her former husband. As she immersed herself in scriptures about the atonement of Christ, she realized that the price for her former spouse's sins "need not be paid twice." In that awareness she found the capacity to forgive him. With similar understanding we forgive those who have hurt us.
President Eyring said, "Opposition and trials have often been the seedbed for the growth of faith." Elder Uchtdorf talked about the importance of "personal restoration" because "we are pilgrims on the path of glory." President Nelson later said that "the restoration is a process, not an event." Just as Christ's original Church experienced an apostasy or falling away and needed restoration, many of our single members have experienced loss of a marriage through death or divorce, and with it, the loss of hope and identity. All of that loss calls for personal restoration as a PROCESS.
Here at Love In Later Years (LILY), we are here to help with that process of personal restoration through one-on-one LILY Coaching sessions and the many supportive materials we create through writing, podcasting on "LILY Pod," and YouTube videos.
Enjoy a more in depth discussion about our most recent General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, with application for mid-singles and later-married couples.
LILY Pod Episode 36: "Conference Tidbits"