"Many have told me of doing everything humanly possible to change a negative attitude or rescue a spoiled relationship, only to fail again and again and finally give up hope. This seems to me the saddest part of being driven by negative emotions or attitudes: We cannot see how to stop. We have been endowed with the capacity to imagine a happy and fulfilling life for ourselves, but we cannot see how to make it happen." ~C. Terry Warner, Bonds that Make Us Free