November 22, 2021
LOVE AND THE HOLIDAYS

The holidays are magical times to find love or grow in it.  The lights, the music, and the snowy landscapes full of Christmas lights and decorations, the legends, and the upbeat mood of people, all bestow a kind of wonderment within which it is easier than normal for romance to flourish. Cold temperatures make for […]

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November 19, 2021
DIVORCE AND THE HOLIDAYS

The holidays often accentuate the grief of divorced people, particularly the newly divorced. It is often an all too poignant reminder of the dreams we have lost. The last holiday season I spent with my former wife and our two children was 2008. At the time, I thought it would probably be our last. In […]

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November 10, 2021
TO FORGIVE IS ROYAL

In 1979, the Irish Republican Army ("IRA") placed explosives on a fishing boat owned by Louis the Earl of Mountbatten, and detonated them for the purpose of assassinating him. Mountbatten was killed in the violent explosion along with a number of his grandchildren. By way of background, Mountbatten was a towering figure in Great Britain. […]

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November 9, 2021
WHAT ABOUT COMMUNICATING YOUR FEELINGS?

One of the saddest tasks I ever performed as an attorney was handling the divorce of a Bishop in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I had known him for many years. The divorce itself was not acrimonious. The bishop and his wife agreed readily about most elements of their settlement. Both were […]

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November 8, 2021
TRUST THE PROCESS

In October General Conference this year, Elder Uchtdorf said: "We need an ongoing, daily infusion of heavenly light. We need 'times of refreshing.' Times of personal restoration." Mid-singles who have experienced painful losses often feel a sense that the identity, happiness, and wholeness they once felt has been shattered. Speaking of the restoration of the […]

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November 7, 2021
HOPE IN DESPAIR

"If I can choose what is placed on my tombstone, it will be this: "Patriot and Statesman; Loving Husband, Father, and Friend; Man of God." I have not yet reached my potential in any of these areas, and in many ways I feel like I have fallen very short. But I'm still a young man […]

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November 4, 2021
A MID-SINGLE KING, A PICTURE, AND THE HAZARDS OF ONLINE DATING

There is a whole chapter in Intentional Courtship (which will be released tomorrow, November 5th!) entitled "Online Dating: the Wild West of Mid-Single Life." In January of the year 1540, a little bit before the invention of the internet, England's King Henry VIII married his fourth wife, the German princess Anne of Cleves from Dusseldorf. […]

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November 2, 2021
WHY THE TEMPLE?

I address this question to Latter-day Saint men in Chapter 6 of Intentional Courtship. The reasons are actually quite profound. Many Latter-day Saint mid-singles have lost temple marriages. Many are cynical and jaded and believe that temple marriage is for the optimistic young couple with their whole lives ahead of them. I have heard many […]

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November 1, 2021
DIVORCED TWICE?

As some of you know, Cathy and I each had a brief second marriage following lengthy first marriages. We disclose and discuss this in our book, Intentional Courtship. In my case, a deal breaker issue showed up a few days after I got engaged. I went ahead with the wedding because I allowed her to […]

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