December 1, 2022
MID-SINGLES, MISTLETOE, AND MAKING MERRY

For many over age 30 and not married or in a promising relationship, the holidays can be a desperately lonely time. You may look at others with spouses and children and watch them decorating homes and yards for the holidays and feel a longing ache. For those who are divorced, the holidays can be a […]

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November 7, 2022
DIVORCE AND THE HOLIDAYS

The holidays, which are fast approaching, often accentuate the grief of divorced people, particularly the newly divorced. It is often an all too poignant reminder of the dreams we have lost and the loneliness we feel. The last holiday season I spent with my former wife and our two children was 2008. At the time, […]

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October 3, 2022
FACING FINANCIAL DIFFICULTIES AS A MID-SINGLE

Money is a vexing subject for many mid-singles. You might be a single mom forced into the workforce for the first time by a divorce or the loss of your husband to death. You might be a single dad who has suffered business losses or career setbacks–whether they contributed to the misery that caused the […]

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September 28, 2022
GRIEF AND THE HOPE OF HEALING

As some of you know, a month ago, my sweet 24-year-old son Henry fell to his death in a rock-climbing accident. I believe losing a child to death is, perhaps, the deepest pain we feel in life. This latest and greatest loss of my life is a chilling reminder that suffering one loss does not […]

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August 13, 2022
HOW MUCH SHOULD WE HEAL BEFORE DATING?

Cathy and I often advise those who have been through a traumatic relationship loss to take some time to heal before venturing back out into the dating world. Sometimes, I think we might have overdone this. We recently attended weddings for two middle aged couples, both of whom had done a lot of intentional healing […]

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July 8, 2022
RELATIONSHIPS ARE LIKE ROPE

On Independence Day, Cathy and I went to Freedom Park in Orem, which is part of the Freedom Festival in Utah County. As usual, they had a lot of people dressed in colonial era costumes explaining Revolutionary War events, reenacting the Battle of Concord and Lexington, and demonstrating such colonial era trades as blacksmithing, barrel […]

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June 20, 2022
ABOUT MID-SINGLE EXHAUSTION

My first divorce exhausted me in mind, body, and spirit. I felt like I had just been kicked in the stomach all the time for about 4 years. I felt so much anxiety about all of the life changes occasioned by divorce that I couldn't even open my mail at certain times. I would think, […]

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June 10, 2022
WHY WE COACH

"Many have told me of doing everything humanly possible to change a negative attitude or rescue a spoiled relationship, only to fail again and again and finally give up hope. This seems to me the saddest part of being driven by negative emotions or attitudes: We cannot see how to stop. We have been endowed […]

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June 6, 2022
IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE FOR ME?

This is a question asked by many who have reached their 30s or 40s without marrying. It is also asked by many who are divorced or widowed. For the divorced, they once believed the search was over, and they were glad to be done with the dating game. Some believed they had gotten really lucky […]

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