Jeff & Cathy discuss the challenges and blessings of mid-single life. As highlighted in our most recent General Conference, single adults have now become the majority in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. During our mid-single years, we each felt like a minority in our church–many mid-singles feel like they don’t fit in. […]
We recorded our first LILY Pod last night! After some trial and error, we finally got a great microphone that we really like. Our first episode is entitled "The Silent Majority." We have lots of other great ideas in the pipeline. This was a fun start to an exciting journey for us into the world […]
There was a recent BYU article about "Transitioning from Sexually Active to Sexually Inactive" that got a good deal of well-warranted criticism. The author (who has never been divorced or widowed) gave a heartfelt and vulnerable apology for the insensitivity of the article. In fairness, she was assigned to write the article by a professor […]
A smile creates high vibrational energy and high vibration leads to smiling easily and effortlessly. It has a synergistic effect. We can share that energy with others just by holding it within ourselves, by focusing on the good in our lives and in the world no matter our circumstances. Gratitude boosts joy and is a […]
When Julia (my first wife) and I were married a year, we moved to the Samoan islands where I served as a law clerk to the Chief Justice of American Samoa. Although the job was amazing and living in the Samoan Islands was amazing, it didn't pay very well and we had to budget almost […]
This Easter weekend, M. Russell Ballard's talk "Hope in Christ" during conference was an unexpected breath of fresh air for mid-singles. It was mesmerizing and motivated us to continue our efforts to create and provide more resources for our single members. So many have felt a lack of belonging and the perception has been that […]
“Sometimes painful things can teach us lessons that we didn’t think we needed to know.” Most mid-singles are familiar with learning through pain. A deep sense of compassion, skillful self-reliance, and the ability to turn wounds into wisdom can develop, perhaps in no other way than through the loss of a significant relationship. Yet learning […]
"Once in awhile, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love comes along and brings you a fairytale." We were living ordinary lives as single parents until we finally found each other. And even then, it wasn't a typical fairy tale but we love our love story anyway. What we felt was missing before […]
HaPpY SaiNt PaTriCkS DaY!!! Here's a fun little story about luck in finding love. This photo was taken 5 years ago, when Cathy was a mid single, actively looking for her "lucky charm." I vividly remember the moment when I took this selfie on March 17, 2016. Intending to share it on singles pages, I […]