March 3, 2022
COULD DIVORCE BE PART OF GOD'S PLAN?

In our religion, we value marriage highly--more than anything except perhaps God Himself. We believe marriage is central to His plan of happiness. Accordingly, when a marriage fails, we often think we have failed at life. We have often heard talks in church about how the divorce rate reflects the failings of a wicked world. […]

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March 1, 2022
PUBLIC VS. PRIVATE TRIALS

Over the weekend, Jeff and I had the opportunity to attend a portion of the "BYU Life After Divorce Conference" (which we were invited to observe as potential presenters for next year). The ending keynote was given by Brad Wilcox, who talked about public versus private trials (among other things). He reminded us that Jesus […]

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February 23, 2022
‚ÄčLOUD VOICES

Life offers us plenty of "loud voices" that can deter us from our own divine guidance and potential. With intention and personal integrity, we can do what we feel inspired to do that is in our highest good and the greatest good of our planet despite loud voices that might otherwise distract us from our […]

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February 20, 2022
ARE MID-SINGLES JUST THE LEFTOVERS?

About a month ago, I saw a post where a mid-single person commented, "We are just the leftovers. Get used to it." I've pondered that characterization a lot since then. Is it true? Are mid-singles just the leftovers that nobody else wanted? I have also sometimes heard people refer to mid-singles as an "Island of […]

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February 12, 2022
WOMEN: CAN YOU TREAT MEN AS EQUALS IN LOVE?

Friends, I want to address you on something that has been weighing heavy on my heart for awhile now. I have been reluctant to bring this up, because I feel it personally. But the issue is bigger than my personal feelings. As Cathy and I have worked to write a book and create LILY, we […]

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February 9, 2022
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE CONFIDENT?

For men, shame is most often manifest by feeling ashamed to be seen as weak. What was the most shameful thing you experienced in elementary school? Chances are that it involved being beaten up or bullied on the playground. I don't know if that is cultural or in our DNA. Whatever the reason, men have […]

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February 2, 2022
ARE YOU STUCK IN GROUNDHOG DAY?

Below is my son, Errol Teichert's analysis of the film "Groundhog Day" with Bill Murray and Andie McDowell. I've seen a bunch of articles on the internet that say that Groundhog Day has aged poorly. They cite: -Phil Connors kissing a woman without her consent. -Phil Connors manipulating a woman into sleeping with him. -Phil […]

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January 29, 2022
CELEBRATING OUR THIRD FIRST KISS

Cathy and I broke up twice during our dating relationship. The first time was only for a few weeks. But after we started seeing each other again, it took a little time to share our second first kiss. The second time we broke up lasted over a year; when I wrote Cathy a letter asking […]

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January 28, 2022
DOES YOUR FORMER SPOUSE HAVE TO FEEL BAD FOR YOU TO FEEL GOOD?

One of the most often repeated phrases people said to me as I was going through my divorce from my kids' mom was, "Some day she'll be sorry." Another one that I often got was, "The best revenge is living a happy life after your divorce." Is that really so? I have often heard people […]

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