August 13, 2022
HOW MUCH SHOULD WE HEAL BEFORE DATING?

Cathy and I often advise those who have been through a traumatic relationship loss to take some time to heal before venturing back out into the dating world. Sometimes, I think we might have overdone this. We recently attended weddings for two middle aged couples, both of whom had done a lot of intentional healing […]

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July 8, 2022
RELATIONSHIPS ARE LIKE ROPE

On Independence Day, Cathy and I went to Freedom Park in Orem, which is part of the Freedom Festival in Utah County. As usual, they had a lot of people dressed in colonial era costumes explaining Revolutionary War events, reenacting the Battle of Concord and Lexington, and demonstrating such colonial era trades as blacksmithing, barrel […]

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June 20, 2022
ABOUT MID-SINGLE EXHAUSTION

My first divorce exhausted me in mind, body, and spirit. I felt like I had just been kicked in the stomach all the time for about 4 years. I felt so much anxiety about all of the life changes occasioned by divorce that I couldn't even open my mail at certain times. I would think, […]

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June 10, 2022
WHY WE COACH

"Many have told me of doing everything humanly possible to change a negative attitude or rescue a spoiled relationship, only to fail again and again and finally give up hope. This seems to me the saddest part of being driven by negative emotions or attitudes: We cannot see how to stop. We have been endowed […]

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June 6, 2022
IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE FOR ME?

This is a question asked by many who have reached their 30s or 40s without marrying. It is also asked by many who are divorced or widowed. For the divorced, they once believed the search was over, and they were glad to be done with the dating game. Some believed they had gotten really lucky […]

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May 19, 2022
LEADERSHIP AND SINGLE MEN

As a man, you are responsible to step forward and be a leader, in the home, the church, the workplace and the community—and in your search for an eternal companion. You have a responsibility to lead in righteousness, but not the privilege to pull rank—EVER! Leading in the Lord’s way (whether you are a man […]

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April 30, 2022
HOW DO I ADJUST TO BEING SINGLE?

A reader of my weekly column in Meridian Magazine recently wrote in asking for "an article regarding the men/women that are left behind after many years of marriage. A stage that many of us have never gone [through] before of being alone." It's a good question. For me, the loneliness actually began before the formal […]

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April 25, 2022
HAPPY PODCASTING ANNIVERSARY

66 podcast episodes have been published on "LILY Pod" over the past year. Nearly 6,000 listens have come in since we started podcasting. To celebrate our year anniversary of "LILY Pod," we updated our cover with a professional photo of us and our brand new LILY Logo. If you haven't yet discovered what so many […]

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April 18, 2022
YOU ONLY HAVE ONE SPOUSE

I am a devoted listener of my friend, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. I think anyone interested in a better marital relationship or personal development could benefit from her perspective. The issues she discusses are highly sensitive and, therefore, highly impactful. She often discusses the dynamic between a low desire partner and a high desire partner as […]

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