April 8, 2022
MID-SINGLES AND MONEY

Money is a hard subject for many mid-singles. You might be a single mom forced into the workforce for the first time by a divorce or the loss of your husband to death. You might be a single dad who has suffered business losses or career setbacks--whether they contributed to the misery that caused the […]

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March 31, 2022
FORTY DAYS AND FORTY NIGHTS

Toward the end of my freshman year of college, debate season was over and my roommate moved home. There was a brief period where I was alone. At the national tournament in Wichita, Kansas, I had encountered a young man competing for a school in Texas who asked me what I believed about salvation. I […]

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March 24, 2022
AMERICAN UNDERDOG: A FILM REVIEW FOR MID-SINGLES

Cathy and I recently had the chance to see the film American Underdog, which is the story of Hall of Fame quarterback Kurt Warner. Based on my years as a divorcee and the consequent difficult life circumstances, I enjoyed and related to this film very much. I was a fan of Kurt Warner when he was […]

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March 16, 2022
WHAT IF YOUR FORMER SPOUSE IS TOXIC?

You want a peaceful co-parenting relationship right? In some cases, I hear divorcees say "I can't have a peaceful relationship with my former because [he or she] is an abusive narcissist." And it's quite true. There are some people who are so bitter and self-involved that they can't play nicely with others, no matter how […]

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March 11, 2022
GOD GIVE US MEN

What follows is a poem by Josiah Gilbert Holland expressing a view of honorable manhood from a bygone age. We live in a time where men are afraid to be men, and where their place in the world is often dishonored. While the loudest voices are telling us that we are no longer needed, many […]

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March 8, 2022
IS DATING LIKE CAR SHOPPING?

Last fall, on her way to a huge concert she had spent over a year planning, Cathy was in an accident that totaled her car. Our YouTube guy, Aaron James Karr, graciously loaned us his spare car while we hunted for another one. Finding a new family car was not an easy proposition. Due to […]

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March 3, 2022
COULD DIVORCE BE PART OF GOD'S PLAN?

In our religion, we value marriage highly--more than anything except perhaps God Himself. We believe marriage is central to His plan of happiness. Accordingly, when a marriage fails, we often think we have failed at life. We have often heard talks in church about how the divorce rate reflects the failings of a wicked world. […]

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March 1, 2022
PUBLIC VS. PRIVATE TRIALS

Over the weekend, Jeff and I had the opportunity to attend a portion of the "BYU Life After Divorce Conference" (which we were invited to observe as potential presenters for next year). The ending keynote was given by Brad Wilcox, who talked about public versus private trials (among other things). He reminded us that Jesus […]

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February 23, 2022
​LOUD VOICES

Life offers us plenty of "loud voices" that can deter us from our own divine guidance and potential. With intention and personal integrity, we can do what we feel inspired to do that is in our highest good and the greatest good of our planet despite loud voices that might otherwise distract us from our […]

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