July 27, 2021
LILY Letter 16: Risks Worth Taking

You cannot find love without risk. This is a fundamental law of nature. Ultimately, the games we play in dating are all attempts to violate this law. You might ask your friend to talk to the person and see if they can tease out a revelation about that person’s feelings for you, without telling the […]

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July 20, 2021
LILY Letter 15: The Power of Intention

Children of God, made in His image are given the power, “to act for themselves and not to be acted upon[.]” (2 Nephi 2:26.) Yet how often do married people resort to blaming each other for their misery and even for their own angry outbursts? We can be acted upon by our own emotions and […]

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July 13, 2021
LILY Letter 14: Freedom from Hatred

Have you ever noticed that the scriptural passage that begins “Love your enemies” ends with “Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect”? (Matthew 5:44-48) I believe this is so because loving our enemies is the most difficult thing we will ever learn on the path to becoming like […]

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July 6, 2021
LILY Letter 13: Healthy Relationship Development

Trees reach up for light and grow in the process, and so do we as sons and daughters of heavenly parents. Facing upwards provides lofty perspective. Looking up in search of holiness builds strength and dignity as disciples of Deity. We can serve and lift others from a higher plane as we look up to […]

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June 29, 2021
LILY Pod 13: Love Stories

I recently learned from my son that his mother, my former spouse, never really loved or wanted me—that she married me because I tried hard and she found that irresistible, until she didn’t. My memory of her behavior toward me in the early days was much warmer and more affectionate than that. It seemed to […]

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June 15, 2021
LILY Letter 10: Bill & Melinda Gates and the Gray Divorce

Microsoft founder Bill Gates and his wife of 27 years, Melinda Gates, recently announced their divorce. This has shocked the world because the Gates seemed like the epitome of a best-friends marriage, united by three children and their joint leadership of the world's largest charitable foundation. We don’t claim to know anything about the Gates’ divorce. […]

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June 8, 2021
LILY Letter 9: Intentional Transformation

Do you want to intentionally transform your life for the better? When it comes to the mind, everything beyond verifiable fact is perspective. The stories we tell have the power to influence our emotions, energy, behaviors, and ultimately our outcomes. We often choose our stories unconsciously and begin to believe our perspective as if it […]

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June 1, 2021
LILY Letter 8: Dating and the Principle of Least Interest

Jeff and Cathy each hold college degrees in the family science field. The principle of least interest is a prominent theory in this discipline. It simply means that the partner who is least invested in a relationship controls that relationship. This is so because the less interested partner is more willing to walk away rather […]

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May 25, 2021
LILY Letter 7: LOVE is the Two Great Commandments

When asked the greatest commandment, Jesus answered: “…Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself” (Matthew 22:37-39). Loving God, ourselves, and our neighbors is at the […]

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