May 17, 2022
LILY Letter 58: Faith Crisis and the Dark Side of Agency

One of the most important things divorcees understand that many other people don't to the same degree is that agency has a dark side. It is wonderful when we make choices in relationships that lead to happiness and success. It is miserable when others make decisions that hurt us and we have no say in […]

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May 10, 2022
LILY Letter 57: Proper Use of Love Languages

The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman took America by storm in 1992 and its influence continues to spread. According to Dr. Chapman, the premise of the book is that, "What makes one person feel loved will not make another person feel loved. We must discover and speak each other's love language." The idea […]

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May 3, 2022
LILY Letter 56: Moving On or Moving Forward

There comes a crossroads moment in every dating relationship where the relationship needs to become exclusive and move toward marriage or transition to friendship and discontinue dating each other. These are the most difficult decisions we face in dating. Each person will have his or her own set of considerations that are most important in […]

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April 26, 2022
LILY Letter 55: Being Whole as a Single Person

Is there any part of you that is waiting to be rescued by a relationship? Many singles carry heavy burdens and it can be tempting to think the answer is to have a relationship with someone who will help with child responsibilities, household chores, and money. What's wrong with that? While it may be understandable […]

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April 19, 2022
LILY Letter 54: Is Divorce Part of Your Path?

In our religion, we value marriage highly—more than anything except the atonement of Jesus Christ. We believe marriage is central to God’s plan of happiness. Accordingly, when a marriage fails, we often think we have failed at life. If we are divorced, we may think something has gone horribly wrong, that God’s plan for us […]

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April 12, 2022
LILY Letter 53: Living True to Inspiration

Life offers a plethora of "loud voices" that can deter us from divine guidance and inspiration. By loud voices, I mean naysayers, haters, and those who put us down or lash out because they are hurting. These voices seem loud and can easily drown out all the supportive voices that counter them because our human […]

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April 5, 2022
LILY Letter 52: Are Mid-Singles the Leftovers?

A mid-single person once commented in a singles group: "We are just the leftovers. Get used to it." I've pondered that characterization a lot since then. Is it true? Are mid-singles just the leftovers that nobody else wanted? I have also sometimes heard people refer to mid-singles as an "Island of Misfit Toys." How about […]

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March 29, 2022
LILY Letter 51: Living & Loving Boldly

Our message this week is to "live boldly" by being your authentic self in wise vulnerable ways with those you believe will accept you as you are, and to "love boldly" by encouraging others to be honest about who they are and to love them unconditionally. To practice "real love" is to be a "wise […]

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March 22, 2022
LILY Letter 50: Beyond Codependance

What’s on the other side of codependence? A life more beautiful than you could possibly imagine if you are stuck in this addictive pattern. It is far superior to want a partner than it is to need a partner. Codependence is excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, often one who requires support on account of an illness […]

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