September 27, 2022
LILY Letter 77: Lurking in Darkness

When our perception of reality gets distorted by trauma, we are at risk for developing maladaptive behaviors to cope with these cognitive distortions. We may lash out at someone who bumps up against an "emotional sunburn" or choose to avoid people altogether to self-protect. It is easy to see cognitive distortions in others but it […]

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September 20, 2022
LILY Letter 76: Flexibility with Formulas & Following the Spirit

Throughout the ages, mankind has been taking note of various social practices and coming up with clever sayings that seem fitting. Some of these sayings become formulas that people subscribe to because they encapsulate the wisdom of the ages. While we see the wisdom behind many of these formulas, we also value personal revelation for […]

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September 13, 2022
LILY Letter 75: The Power of Mindfulness

For most of us, life offers us a plethora of options that keep us super busy and many of us are over taxed and stressed out. Life is more uncertain for many people now than ever before because of the fast pace of life with technology. This leaves many of us with serious anxiety and […]

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September 6, 2022
LILY Letter 74. Is the Law of Attraction Working FOR You?

The Law of Attraction is always at play in our lives—whether we're aware of it and intentional choose our focus, or not. We naturally attract and create more of what we focus on in our lives. Is the law of attraction working FOR you or AGAINST you? Honestly observe your thoughts and what you talk […]

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August 30, 2022
LILY Letter 73: The Flip Side of Flop Circumstances

When you are in the middle of what feels like the worst possible thing that could ever happen to you, such as a divorce or the death of an intimate partner, it can be nearly impossible to see beyond painful feelings of despair. We wouldn’t want to take those painful feelings away entirely because the […]

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August 23, 2022
LILY Letter 72: The Courage to Love Again

One of the most common refrains we hear from mid-singles is “I hate dating.” In the vast majority of situations, the individual doesn’t actually “hate dating.” He or she hates rejection. He or she hates being judged. Rejection in dating often feels deeply personal, and it requires a lot of emotional maturity to cope with […]

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August 16, 2022
LILY Letter 71: A Mighty Change of Heart

Perhaps the most central message of the Book of Mormon is the mighty change of heart we can experience through the power of Jesus Christ's atonement. This "mighty change" is accomplished through the power of Holy Ghost, which brings about faith and even a change in our desires: "And they all cried with one voice, […]

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August 9, 2022
LILY Letter 70: Getting Toxic Out of You and Your Life

President Ezra Taft Benson famously said, "The Lord works from the inside out. The world works from the outside in. The world would take people out of the slums. Christ would take the slums out of people, and then they would take themselves out of the slums." We want to emphasize that toxicity finds a […]

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August 2, 2022
LILY Letter 69: From Trauma to Truth

We started ministering to mid-singles because they were underserved. Mid-singles are unique. Their needs are fundamentally different from those of most married and settled people. One of the biggest ways mid-singles are different comes down to trauma. Mid-singles and and even former mid-singles who have remarried have almost all experienced major losses, disappointments, and pain […]

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