September 21, 2021
WHY DOES CONFLICT HAPPEN?

Many of us went through marriages where there was a lot of conflict--whether outwardly expressed or subtle hostility lurking below the surface. Conflict can be very traumatic, and that part of our histories makes many reluctant to date or move toward new relationships. So, why does it happen? How does a relationship that starts out […]

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September 20, 2021
EXPECTATIONS AND RELATIONSHIPS

When I first met my step-kids' dad, I asked him his parenting philosophy and he said, "expectations." I think many if not most parents would say the same. That was also the answer my dad gave to the same question. (By the way, I consider both of these men pretty good fathers in many ways.) […]

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September 17, 2021
ABOUT LISTENING

In a recent podcast (yet to be released), Lark Dean Galley observed that women want to be loved and men want to be respected. The respect she discussed is avoiding the many temptations every day to nit pick her husband or make a running commentary on everything he does, how she wants things done, etc. […]

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September 16, 2021
IT WAS NOT MEANT TO BE THIS WAY?

In President Reagan's Interview with Tom Brokaw, right before he left the White House in 1989, Reagan talked about his deep disappointment as a young man when he did not get a job as a manager in the sporting goods department at Montgomery Ward. But soon thereafter he landed a job as a sports announcer, […]

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September 14, 2021
ON APPEARANCES AND IDEALS

One of the biggest benefits of mid-single life is being freed from the burden of Latter-day Saint idealism. In our faith, we have developed a very specific cultural picture of what "the good life" looks like. I should know. My former wife and I had that image. We both served in "important" callings in the […]

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September 13, 2021
WHAT IF WE COULD JUST BE REAL?

One of the things I most commonly hear from mid-singles is, "I hate dating." Hey, I understand. Getting dressed nice and going out for a lovely meal at a restaurant with an attractive member of the opposite sex must be pure torture! All kidding aside, why don't people like dating? (1) They don't like the […]

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September 9, 2021
A GREAT ROCK & ROLL DRUMMER, TRAGEDY AND GRIEF

Neil Peart is, in my opinion, the greatest rock & roll drummer that ever lived. In fact, on my list, number two is way off. Peart was the drummer for the iconic Canadian rock band, Rush. I remember seeing him in action at a concert at the Delta Center in Salt Lake City when they […]

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September 8, 2021
DO WE REALLY SEE OUR PARTNERS?

One of the most difficult things to accept when I got divorced was that someone I had lived with for 15 years, loved, shared a home and a bed with, taken vacations with, spent Christmases with, and raised children with didn't want me anymore. If someone could feel the way she did about me, knowing […]

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September 1, 2021
ABOUT TRYING TOO HARD

We've all done it. You are finally on that date with that special person you've been wanting to get to know when he or she states an opinion that you don't agree with. You nod and pretend to agree, even though in your heart you don't. What about the guy who hears an attractive woman […]

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