July 9, 2021
ABOUT MEETING PEOPLE AND MAKING DATES

On our recent trip to New York, Cathy and I met another middle-aged couple on the air train and had some good conversation. Their kids had given them this trip to New York for their 50th birthdays. They were still thinking about what they wanted to do in the city for the 4th of July. […]

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July 6, 2021
LILY Letter 13: Healthy Relationship Development

Trees reach up for light and grow in the process, and so do we as sons and daughters of heavenly parents. Facing upwards provides lofty perspective. Looking up in search of holiness builds strength and dignity as disciples of Deity. We can serve and lift others from a higher plane as we look up to […]

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July 2, 2021
MID-SINGLES, STRUGGLE, AND PEACE

David Archuleta is now moving into the realm of mid-singles. There was a time when he seemed to have everything. He is handsome, talented, charismatic, and wealthy. He is a celebrity. The world has recently learned about his private struggle to maintain his faith amid doubts about his sexual orientation. This has reminded me that […]

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June 29, 2021
TRAUMA AND MID-SINGLE RELATIONSHIPS

I used to think the objective was to marry someone "normal" and not "irrational." Well, aside from the fact that "normal" is very much in the eye of the beholder, I also do not think it exists. Anyone you marry will, at some time, convince you that he or she is completely nuts. This has […]

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June 29, 2021
LILY Pod 13: Love Stories

I recently learned from my son that his mother, my former spouse, never really loved or wanted me—that she married me because I tried hard and she found that irresistible, until she didn’t. My memory of her behavior toward me in the early days was much warmer and more affectionate than that. It seemed to […]

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June 28, 2021
HAVE YOU EVER WORRIED THAT NO ONE WILL LOVE YOU?

This was one of my overriding worries when my marriage to my wife of 15 years ended. I was over 40 and divorced, and didn't think I was particularly good at dating in my 20s. I got married at 26, which was ancient at BYU at that time. Back then, I found talking to a […]

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June 25, 2021
LILY Pod 17: Self Image

The mid-single community is made up of unique and diverse men and women with interesting life stories. However, we have observed at least one thing that almost all mid-singles have in common. They are survivors. Virtually every mid-single we have known has a story of profound loss—whether it is the passing of a beloved spouse, […]

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June 24, 2021
THERE IS LOVE--THE WEDDING SONG

In 1969, "Paul" (Noel Paul Stookey) of the singing trio "Peter, Paul, and Mary" wrote a song for Peter's wedding. Peter asked him to bring some "inspiration" to the ceremony. Noel prayed to God about it and the words came to him immediately. He wrote them down as the Spirit dictated and then translated them […]

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June 23, 2021
LILY Pod--First Podcast Fan Letter

We got our first podcast fan letter!!! One of Cathy's violin students wrote this sweet note and gave it to her after lessons. It was such a darling gesture and it's a new first for us! We couldn't have asked for a better first fan letter. Such a great surprise! LILY Pod can be found […]

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