Every year we visit my sister's grave on Memorial Day weekend. It has been fun to see how these cute boys of mine have grown next to her gravestone. She left this world when my oldest was just a baby and now he's taller than me!
Jeff and I both lost a younger sibling when we were in our twenties, long before we ever met each other. This, along with many other similar life experiences, have been a strong connection for us.
We are grateful for our knowledge of eternal families and the opportunity to see our loved ones again. They are angels to us now and part of our future filled with love after this life. That's a whole other dimension of the love available to us in even later years! 💕

Jeff & Cathy discuss the challenges and blessings of mid-single life. As highlighted in our most recent General Conference, single adults have now become the majority in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

During our mid-single years, we each felt like a minority in our church – many mid-singles feel like they don’t fit in. Little did we know that we were all in a class that was becoming and now IS the majority of our adult members! President Ballard and Elder Gong both cited in their talks at General Conference in April 2021, that more than 50% of our adult members are either-divorced, widowed or not yet married. 

President Nixon talked about “The Great Silent Majority” of Americans, the same applies to mid-singles. Why are we silent? 1. Because we are busy and have a lot on our minds and on our plates 2. We may not feel comfortable speaking up 3. We just plain aren’t there because some of us become less active. Why? We are dealing with painful emotions. We don’t like being talked about. Divorced men tend to get treated with suspicion and women tend to get pitied. Transitioning to celibacy from marriage is hard. We may feel less relevant in a family oriented church as we adjust to less traditional family units. 

We have compassion for all of those concerns it is worth living a covenant life despite all the challenges associated with it. 5 good reasons to stay on the covenant path and to start speaking up:

  1. There are more of us than we thought and there is strength in numbers.
  2. There are more opportunities to date within the Church than ever before.
  3. The eternal blessings of being sealed in the temple are just as real now as in our twenties.
  4. There is power and strength in our covenants to withstand the turmoil in these last days. Standing in holy places gives us support while we are without a spouse.
  5. We can give our much needed perspective and compassion as people who have experienced loss and grief in ways that no one else can.

Our Church and communities need your voice! You are the great silent majority. It’s time to not be silent anymore. Allow your voices to bless and build the Kingdom of God. 

LILY Pod Episode 1: The Silent Majority

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